When Israel complained to Samuel about his sons being their judges they asked for a human king. God gave Israel what they wanted but He first had Samuel tell them what a human king would be like; how a king would take their things (children, servants, food, money, etc) versus how God gave them things.
10 So Samuel told all the words of the LORD to the people who were asking for a king from him. 11 He said, “These will be the ways of the king who will reign over you: he will take your sons and appoint them to his chariots and to be his horsemen and to run before his chariots. 12 And he will appoint for himself commanders of thousands and commanders of fifties, and some to plow his ground and to reap his harvest, and to make his implements of war and the equipment of his chariots. 13 He will take your daughters to be perfumers and cooks and bakers. 14 He will take the best of your fields and vineyards and olive orchards and give them to his servants. 15 He will take the tenth of your grain and of your vineyards and give it to his officers and to his servants. 16 He will take your male servants and female servants and the best of your young men and your donkeys, and put them to his work. 17 He will take the tenth of your flocks, and you shall be his slaves. 18 And in that day you will cry out because of your king, whom you have chosen for yourselves, but the LORD will not answer you in that day.”
1Sam 8:10-18 ESV
About 120 years later, after Kings Saul, David & Solomon, Israel asked King Rehoboam to lighten his taxation of them.
10 And the young men who had grown up with [King Rehoboam] said to him, “Thus shall you speak to the people who said to you, ‘Your father made our yoke heavy, but you lighten it for us’; thus shall you say to them, ‘My little finger is thicker than my father’s thighs. 11 And now, whereas my father laid on you a heavy yoke, I will add to your yoke. My father disciplined you with whips, but I will discipline you with scorpions.’”
2Chr 10:10-11 ESV
So the people of the northern 10 tribes split off into the kingdom of Israel and left Rehoboam as the king of Judah as God had prophesied through Ahijah (2 Chronicles 10:15-19).
Finally I look to what Israel’s Messiah and eternal King, Jesus, says about His lordship.
28 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”
Matt 11:28-30 ESV
Jesus offers rest, understanding, gentle and humble leadership. He delivers peace.
With that said, both the fruit of the Holy Spirit and the command that Christians are given is to live peacefully with everyone as much is it depends on them (you aren’t responsible for someone else’s attitude but you should seek to live in peace).
If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.
Romans 12:18 ESV
Peace comes from Jesus and we’re commanded to live in it and told that we should see it as an expression of our lives when we follow the direction of the Holy Spirit and chase after Jesus (Galatians 5:16-26).